Focusing on Our Top 5 Goals in Life - don’t let too many goals, or confusion or a lack of being able to focus become a barrier that keeps you from figuring them out. It’s just as important to know what you don’t want, as to what you do want at midlife and beyond. Stopping the Comparison Game - ignore what others are doing. The expression, “comparison is the thief of joy,” is true. Everyone’s situation is different, and you’ll do yourself a huge disservice if you compare your life to anyone else’s. Getting a Mentor – find someone more experienced and older who has already navigated phases of life you have yet to experience. We’re never too old to have a mentor we trust who can guide us because they’ve “gone before us.” Don’t Berate Yourself. If you’re going through midlife difficulties, realize that it’s almost a universal experience. Most people have a midlife slump to some degree. Don’t treat yourself like some kind of failure for feeling the way you, as that negative mindset will only make things worse. Understand What You Can Change and What You Can’t. At midlife, there are things you can radically modify and other things that you cannot. Focus on the things you can change that you may want to renegotiate or refine in some way. With any change, start with small steps that will transform aspects of your life over time, so you can feel happier and more aligned with your values and purpose. Focus on Being Present. When we focus on the past, we get depressed. When we focus on the future, we get anxious. When we focus on the present moment, we tune into our awareness about what we’re feeling and thinking. We can observe what’s really happening vs responding from a highly agitated emotional state. Choosing to be fully present can shift us to a neutral emotional state where we can better discern decisions about our future.